I love the tool “social behavior map” from Michelle Garcia Winner’s Social Thinking program!
My adult Aspergers clients often can’t understand why their “unexpected behaviors” cause problems in their relationships. Here’s how it works:
- The“Unexpected behavior” is (for example) : Talking constantly about a topic of interest only to the speaker and not sharing the conversation, or showing interest in the listeners.
- This “Makes others feel” : sad, bored, frustrated, not cared about.
- The “Natural consequences the speaker experiences” are : angry faces, bored faces, listeners don’t want to hang out with him, listeners tease him or say mean things.
- That “Makes the speaker feel”: upset, ignored, unhappy.
Follow the social behavior map from left to right. Seeing this chain reaction clearly explained helped my clients to understand how their behavior affects others. Now they understand the connection between behavior #1. and feeling #4. Behavior #1. causes feeling #4. but my students didn’t realize there were steps between #1. and #4. Seeing all the steps helped them to add the missing social information that help them make better decisions using their social thinking!
Social behavior mapping can be used with any behavior. You can map out an “expected” or a good behavior, and see how good feelings follow it. You can map out an “unexpected” behavior (one that makes others feel weird or uncomfortable), and see how bad feelings follow it.
See the Social Thinking website for more info.